What is it about our damn jaws??? I’m obsessed over mine :( Thank you for sharing this - it’s nice to acknowledge such feelings with a sort of casualness. I think it will make a lot of people feel less alone in their own overly critical thoughts!
I can relate to each and every word that you wrote. The outfit, our mentality and the industry, everything has changed. I wish I could be more grateful back in those days, but I am definitely at a calmer (even if fatter and with lesser work) state than before.
I read somewhere, take a picture of yourself and 5 years later you will look back and think, wow, I looked great. Great reminder to appreciate our looks and life as it changes.
This HITS. And maybe it is because we are the exact age, (happy almost birthday to us!).
One thing I will say is that I look back at those old photos (in the smaller clothing, with the more defined jawline) of myself and remember that back then I wasn't happy with how I looked. So it motivates me in a way, to not be so mean to myself. Because I know that six years from now, I will look back at photos of me now and think how great I looked.
Just had this same thing happen. I have a dress that I had bought from a little boutique in Williamsburg that I wore to a wedding in 2008 in Lake Como. It was $350 and I had never spent that much on a dress. I happened to be looking at pictures from that wedding recently and decided to try on the dress…..and my rib cage has expanded so it was too small by several inches. 😩 But I’ll keep it forever, I just love seeing it hang in my closet and I love the memory of wearing it on that day, the only time I wore it. And luckily I have 2 daughters so maybe one of them can wear it someday. ❤️
Little victories with the jacket. And also I feel this so much - with age we gain wisdom but we do miss those clothes. I have a similar pair from Veronica Beard that will never fit but represent such a TIME in my life.
So poignant! I know exactly what you’re talking about and was actually doing the same thinking and re-living via pics earlier this week. I’ve realized looking back at pics of a “past” me that while I truly love and appreciate her, I don’t want to be her anymore. Because she doesn’t know everything I know now, and there is so much growth that happened between then & now 😌
This is my favorite Substack I’ve ever read. Way to reflect, way to reframe, way to choose wisdom, age and truth, way to be genuinely you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow, thank you for this beautiful message back!
“there's so much more to life than the pants that used to fit.“ This! Perfectly said. Title of a book?
Enjoyed this Substack as it’s so important to have perspective in this critical world and so many of us can relate to these feelings.
Thanks for the honesty!
Thank you for this honesty!!! I def feel less alone and neurotic. 😁
What is it about our damn jaws??? I’m obsessed over mine :( Thank you for sharing this - it’s nice to acknowledge such feelings with a sort of casualness. I think it will make a lot of people feel less alone in their own overly critical thoughts!
it doesn't help that society is obsessed with the jaw more than ever - so it seems!
Love this!
I can relate to each and every word that you wrote. The outfit, our mentality and the industry, everything has changed. I wish I could be more grateful back in those days, but I am definitely at a calmer (even if fatter and with lesser work) state than before.
could not agree more!
I read somewhere, take a picture of yourself and 5 years later you will look back and think, wow, I looked great. Great reminder to appreciate our looks and life as it changes.
This is so true and I try to remind myself of this on a regular basis.
Thank you for this honest reflection. Feel this so hard.
The message I needed today. Thank you so much for this reminder! ✨
This HITS. And maybe it is because we are the exact age, (happy almost birthday to us!).
One thing I will say is that I look back at those old photos (in the smaller clothing, with the more defined jawline) of myself and remember that back then I wasn't happy with how I looked. So it motivates me in a way, to not be so mean to myself. Because I know that six years from now, I will look back at photos of me now and think how great I looked.
Hugs, and thanks for the vulnerabiltiy! xx
Happy almost birthday to us indeed!!
YES. You nailed it. Thank you for this comment!
This libra that is nearly 42 concurs.
team Libraaaa!
Just had this same thing happen. I have a dress that I had bought from a little boutique in Williamsburg that I wore to a wedding in 2008 in Lake Como. It was $350 and I had never spent that much on a dress. I happened to be looking at pictures from that wedding recently and decided to try on the dress…..and my rib cage has expanded so it was too small by several inches. 😩 But I’ll keep it forever, I just love seeing it hang in my closet and I love the memory of wearing it on that day, the only time I wore it. And luckily I have 2 daughters so maybe one of them can wear it someday. ❤️
Helena! Love this and totally relate. But this event was at Macy's! I went and I left thinking wow her suit was SO cool!
Little victories with the jacket. And also I feel this so much - with age we gain wisdom but we do miss those clothes. I have a similar pair from Veronica Beard that will never fit but represent such a TIME in my life.
So poignant! I know exactly what you’re talking about and was actually doing the same thinking and re-living via pics earlier this week. I’ve realized looking back at pics of a “past” me that while I truly love and appreciate her, I don’t want to be her anymore. Because she doesn’t know everything I know now, and there is so much growth that happened between then & now 😌